Firstly, If you do not know who James Tripp is, you would possibly increase your hypnotic success by finding out (maybe I am exaggerating, but his work is that brilliant, so go for it). James Tripp is most famously known for his development of ‘Hypnosis Without Trance‘ and he inspired this Lesson on Failure by his most recent blog post, video and TeleSeminar on ‘Failure and Feedback Loops‘. If you missed the TeleSeminar you can listen and download it there.
(P.S. I usually do not mention anyone who has not written lessons for the IAYH or point you out of the IAYH, nor am I selling anything or getting a commission for mentioning James, this is completely on his own merit)
Now, I am done with my blurb and rant and possible ego-boost of James, Let us get back to the Lesson on Failure and Success in Hypnosis.
“Failure is only the opportunity to begin again, only this time more wisely.” ~ Henry Ford
These famous words by Henry Ford ring true especially in our lives as hypnotists and is a great way to view how we see and frame our supposed failure. Here is how another very successful person who has lit up all our lives frames failure:
“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” ~ Thomas Alva Edison
Thomas Edison is the man who created the light-bulb (if you did not get my previous pun), this was supposedly said by Edison when asked by a reporter why he is still trying to create a light-bulb after he has failed thousands of times already.
In Edison’s mind, there was no failure. Edison Successfully discovered thousands of ways how not to make a light-bulb, so in his model, if he continued in this way, he would eventually have found a way to successfully create the first working light-bulb based on the feedback he received from the ways he discovered of how not to do it.
Here is the greatest re-framing of failure and mindset of success to take back from this (Which would be very familiar to those in the NLP field):
There is no Failure, only Feedback!
In James’s post he asks a great question with regards to this statement;
“There is no failure, only feedback! To what extent do you practically live it?”
It is one thing saying it. It is another thing understanding it, but it is a completely different thing altogether when you practically utilize and live it!
The Feedback Loop: Do, Observe, Gain Feedback, Utilize…
The only way I can fully explain the feedback loop is if I show it to you, the below video is the video from one James’s Live Trainings and also the very same video that inspired this post, I also suggest you go to the full post on ‘Failure and Feedback Loops‘ on the HWT Blog and listen to the complete teleseminar, here is the video:
Remember, it does not fail because James does something wrong. It would have succeeded perfectly on someone who was more Visually orientated. It just so happened that this subject’s Primary Representational System was very kinesthetic and therefore the suggestions, which were highly visual, did not have the same desired outcome… until James customized it to fit the model of the subject.
This proves more the point about hypnosis being a lot about how we communicate, and the more we communicate in a way that the subject understands, the greater the success of suggestions will be, this is most apparent when one starts doing change-work.
In the video you would have noticed that when James “Fails” he does not shrug his shoulders make an intelligently worded reason for why it “failed” making it look like its because of the subject, he does not creep away into a comfort zone, but he attempts again, he fails, gets feedback, attempts again, he fails, he asks questions, he gets feedback, he utilizes the feedback (in this case the words and representational system of the subject) and he succeeds.
So then, the Feedback loop will look like this: Do, Observe, Gain Feedback and Utilize
Go for it, make your attempt and see what happens.
See if it succeeds or not and what happens, what reactions you get either way
Whether you succeed or whether you fail, gaining feedback by asking questions is always important, if you succeed and gain feedback it will help you see what works best and assist you in increases your current success. If you failed, it helps you find out why you failed and what would possibly work.
Ask the subject about their experience, get them to describe it, this will assist you in working out what representational system they are using and also in finding their ‘trigger words’ or the words that makes them tick and that would work best for them, very much like what was done in the above video.
Use the Feedback you have gained to increase your success if you already had success, If you supposedly failed, you simply utilize the feedback you received and use that as an opportunity to have another opportunity and being more intelligent than before.
Repeat until you achieve the desired level of success. Yes, there are “levels” of success!
This is just the beginning of elaborating more on how to increase your hypnotic success and this is just a small segment of ways to do it, but it is one of the most important things you can begin doing now if you are truly serious about your own success. Tell us what you think, feel free to leave comments and what you do to increase your own success and how Feedback Loops work for you.